In the past, you’d never find me speaking in front of a group. It’s just something I’d never do. Now, for some reason, I’ve been asked to join a panel discussion. The good folks at Tulare-Kings PFLAG have asked Brooke Burke of GayVisalia.com, Justin Kamimoto and Ted Freitas of My LGBT Plus, Andrew Miller of Tulare-Kings PFLAG, and myself to talk about LGBTQ blogging in the central valley.
We’ll be speaking at the February meeting, Sunday the 19th. The meeting starts at 3pm, check out the link for PFLAG for the location and directions.
I’m actually looking forward to the panel, even though I’m not sure what I’m going to say!
Public speaking? In front of a crowd?
February 15, 2012
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Random meetings
February 15, 2012
Angels, Devils, and Dr. Pepper
February 12, 2012
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I was driving down the street this afternoon, heading to Quizno’s for another of their fantastic salads, when I passed a trio of boys trying to attract the attention of passing motorists. They were all about 12 years old, and one held up a sign that said “Dr. Pepper $1.00”. They waved and yelled as I drove past, trying to get me to stop. I don’t particularly care for Dr. Pepper, and I already had a 44 ounce Pepsi sitting next to me, so I drove on. I thought about holding up my big cup as I drove by, but the moment passed before I could manage it safely.
That’s when the angel appeared.

A Rare Thing
February 8, 2012
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Here’s something that doesn’t often happen. I’m all dressed up for dinner! Enjoy the view, it’s a rare thing. I was even told that “I clean up well”!
Crime and Punishment
February 6, 2012
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They say no good deed goes unpunished. I’ve been living that for several years, now. The latest wrinkle makes me the victim of theft, losing a laptop computer from my living room coffee table. Here’s a cautionary tale for you, the moral of which is not to let just anybody move in with you. I’m at the point of suggesting that you don’t let anyone you’re not sleeping in the same bed with move into your home.
Just about ten years ago, I made that mistake. I let a cousin move in with me after his mother died, and he had no place else to go. At the time, he made some promises to me, and over the years has broken every one of them. A paranoid schizophrenic with a history of alcohol and drug abuse, he had been on medication, was seeing the mental health counselors, and was not drinking. I told him he could move in if he stayed on his meds, didn’t drink, and only smoked outdoors. It was less than 18 months before he began breaking those promises. I held off doing anything, hoping he would be able to be coaxed back into following his agreement. That hasn’t worked, and his paranoia and psychosis has merely deepened.
The most recent event occurred at the beginning of this month. On Friday night (actually Saturday morning early) I noticed a laptop computer of mine was missing. My first thought was that he had hidden it, as he has done odd things in the past. After a thorough search, I put up a note where he could see it that said he had better return the computer, or I would report it as stolen to the police. When I got up the next day, he insisted he did not take the computer, and that it must have been someone, a “friend” of his, that had taken it.
I went ahead and reported it stolen to the police, providing the serial number and other pertinent information to the Visalia Police Department. I also provided the name and other information I had on this “friend”, listing him as the prime suspect. It appears my cousin let him in, they were drinking together, and at some point he walked out with my computer, probably while my cousin was passed out on his bedroom floor.
This is the laptop (not the exact one, but a picture of the same model) that was taken. I’m hoping it ends up in a pawn shop, eventually. If it does, with the serial number being entered into NCIC and CLETS (the nation wide and state wide criminal computer networks) it will pop up as a stolen computer, and I should eventually get it back. I don’t think I have any important personal information on the computer, as I had recently re-loaded all the software, and hadn’t used it all that much. What personal passwords and whatnot that are on it are also password protected, so I should be OK. They might get onto a few websites, but unless they’re gay, I doubt they’ll be very interested in them! I’ve already changed my online banking paswwords.
If someone in the Visalia area offers you a deal on a Compaq CQ60-417DX Celeron 9 laptop, check it carefully. If the serial number is 2CE920GPKC, call the Visalia Police at 734-8117, or your local law enforcement.
And don’t let anyone you don’t want to wake up next to every morning move in with you. Especially if they’re mentally ill.
Memorials for EricJames
January 16, 2012
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Reposted here from Queerlandia.com and QueerVisalia.com:
Two memorial services are planned for EricJames, who succumbed to suicide Wednesday, January 11, in Visalia, California.
EricJames, as he was known to his friends, was 19, and his death has struck a cord world-wide. News sites and blogs around the world have carried the report, with people writing how the news has touched them with sadness, and has strengthened their convictions to work harder on suicide prevention, and the acceptance of LGBTQ+ people of all ages.
Two public memorials are planned:
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
College of the Sequoias 915 S. Mooney Blvd, Visalia The Theatre Arts Department will hold a public memorial at 3:00 – 6:00 pm. See their Facebook event site, here. A map to the College is here.
Saturday, January 21, 2012
The Spiritual Awareness Center 117 S. Locust St., (map)
Due to capacity considerations, this memorial has been moved. Same time, Saturday at 1pm.
New location: The Lamp Liter Inn, 3300 W. Mineral King, Visalia map.
Facebook event page, here.
Survivor’s Guilt
January 15, 2012
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It’s been a difficult week. On Wednesday, the young man in this picture, EricJames Borges, 19, committed suicide. He was the latest in a series of young gay men who have killed themselves in the past two years. From what we know of their stories, they were all bullied by others for being gay. Some of them, like EricJames, also had to deal with families whose religion told them they were disgusting, evil, damned, and perverted. EricJames, in a YouTube video for the “It Gets Better” Campaign, told of his mother trying an exorcism to rid him of his homosexuality. He was told to leave home after he came out. Whatever the exact situation in his life, EricJames arrived at a place where he could no longer cope with the depression, and hanged himself. His friends and the LGBT community in Visalia and the central valley are in shock.
It’s completely normal for people who knew him to wonder if they could have done anything to prevent his death. From his closest friends, to casual acquaintances, people are left to wonder, and hope, that they didn’t miss the opportunity to help.
A Weird Little Poem
January 11, 2012
First posted July 13, 2008, on my MySpace blog.
Thoughts jumble
Fingers fumble
Electrons tumble
Photons mumble
Words on a screen
Phosphors glowing
Diodes shining
Plasma glistening
Thoughts
Ideas
Passions
Are you listening?


The place was locked up and appeared secure when the first unit arrived that afternoon to check out the call to 9-1-1. Since nothing seemed amiss, and there was nothing to suggest someone was inside who needed help, the Deputy cleared and left.

Time Marches On
February 17, 2012
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I dug out an old picture of my sister and I, and paired it up with one I took of us the other day. I suppose you could say bookends for the past half-century. I can remember the photo shoot on the left, and in years to come, I’ll probably remember it better than the latest one!
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